I really do NOT like this word.
I'm embarrassed every time I say it.
I'm blushing right now, just thinking about it.
But, because of an extremely weird and intensely bizarre experience I had a few months ago (more on that later), it's a word that I've had to investigate over and over again. Why do I have this reaction to a simple word? Why does every woman I ask have the same reaction?
And so when I heard a woman say that "Pleasure is a portal to our own divinity." I nearly drove off the road. Did I hear that right? I mean, people say some crazy shit these days and THIS person thinks divinity and the "p" word (pleasure) are connected.
Were you thinking I was talking about a different "p" word?
It turns out many women are totally fine with and actually prefer the word "pussy" over vagina or vulva or any of the other words we've been taught to use in reference to our "down there" parts.
And it was a prominent pussy pioneer who I'd heard say that crazy shit about pleasure and divinity. Regena Thomashauer wrote the book "Pussy: A Reclamation" in 2016 after spending over 20 years teaching thousands of women (and men) as the Founder of Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts.
As a therapist, I "know" the importance and healing power of joy. And play. And fun. And as the newly divorced mother of a child with her own set of unique challenges, I do not do "fun" or "play" or "joy" well. Nor do many of us who have childhood survival strategies that include feeling like we need to earn our worth and belonging. I'm excellent at encouraging my clients to build a tolerance to feeling good. I can even discuss the neurohormonal cascades of safety that allow our nervous system to heal itself when we experience those moments of safety and connection. But I would never NEVER talk about "pleasure".
So why in the hell am I writing this down? And possibly publishing this so that other people see and read about "pleasure"?! Well, I really do hate to say this (and I'm rolling my eyes at myself as I write this) but not only is "pleasure" able to connect us to our own divinity and not only does it speed and strengthen our heal emotionally and physically but y'all, it's also how we counter all the bullshit that's out there.
What do you think would happen if we all felt GOOD most of the time? If we were motivated by and moving towards the things that felt good in our bodies instead of being motivated by and moving away from fear? We'd be nourished. Rested. We'd have more access to our executive functions. We'd be walking around open for connection instead of being in an almost constant state of fight or flight (I know I'm not the only one).
This is not a new concept. I am not revealing any new information here.
What I am doing is inviting you to be curious about your relationship with pleasure.
What have you been taught about pleasure?
What are your beliefs?
And do these beliefs still serve you?
Or are they in service to those who want power over you? Power over your fear. Power over your money and power over your "choices"?
If you are interested in learning more about turning towards your own power and trusting your own wisdom (and how the fuck to do that with all this bullshit out "there"), I hope you come back to read more about my resistance to all things "good" and listen to our upcoming podcast "The Wisdom Within".
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